Did you know that a person can be completely invalidated as a human? I sure didn't know that - Not until my wife's therapist actually told me that I completely invalidated my wife as a human.
I want to tell you first off that I am not making this up. An actual expert, a bona fide and certified psychotherapist has made the claim to me today that I had "completely invalidated" my wife as a human. Her exact words to me were
"You completely invalidated her as a human."
Isn't that profound? I think so.
Shrinks say some of the "darndest" things, don't they?
To put the quack's declaration of my wife's existential status into perspective, I'll share with you a little background along with the context in which she made this remark:
Today, I sat in a therapy session with my wife who has been involved in psychotherapy for 10 years. In my opinion, my wife's long term involvement in psychotherapy has contributed to her having a victim posture and outlook on life.
Despite my attempts at trying to explain to my wife how psychology has propagated within her mind a chronic victim mentality, and even her occasional and seemingly honest acknowledgement of the negative role psychology has played in cultivating this victim mentality, she continues to attend meetings with a therapist.
In today's particular session, we were asked the typical "How are things going." We didn't answer with much, whether good or bad.
When we didn't fill the air with much conversation, the therapist took the time to bring up a discussion from two weeks ago where we discussed what we thought were appropriate roles for us as family members, partners in marriage.
The therapist asserted that I don't allow my wife choice in where my wife is allowed to go, that I don't allow her choice in financial decisions, .etc. The lady generally seems to believe that I don't allow my wife any choice in anything if I am to take the words "no control of anything" at face value.
Now what's in store for my wife? According to her therapist, my wife has been completely invalidated as a human. It sounds kind of scary as if she'd fallen into some kind of humanistic black hole full of human anit-matter.
Add comment